Writing about change is hard. People have different problems and it is unique to them. However, there is a common thread to positive change, something we can all agree on is necessary to create the desired effect of change – changing your mindset. Our reality is only our perception of it. Sure, we can all interpret certain facts the same way such as The World Is Round. Most people agree to this. The emotions attached to that fact differ with each of our perspectives. The world is a beautiful sphere with life and endless possibility. Or this spinning magical orb is a dimension designed to sustain spiritual beings that create OR the earth is a ball that spins and we do stuff on it. You get the idea. We all see things in a different way.
I’ve had a major shift in the way I interpret my reality and it has caused a massive change in my circumstances. Allow me to demonstrate – I am broke. I am also sad a lot. I am confused about my internal state of affairs and I didn’t see the point of life anymore. I couldn’t see past the wave engulfing me and it about destroyed me. But I triumphed. How? I decided to view life from another angle. And you can, too.
Everyone has this power. The hard part is deciding to take the step. There are so many excuses we give ourselves to not pursue that job or go after that girl/guy. We push our passions to the side because we limit ourselves with the mistaken belief that we just aren’t good enough. Or maybe, deep down, we’re not sure we can handle the success. Or, perhaps, we are afraid of failing at what we love the most. Rough, eh? That’s what kills our dreams, the mind tricking us into believing that we just can’t do it. But you see, your mind is actually, by design, masochistic. I’ll tell you why – evolutionarily speaking, your brain seeks to be in a comfortable state at all times. Comfortable is safe. Comfortable allows you to see into the future (or so we think). Any modification to our routine upsets the mind because our brain wants to protect us and so it imagines the worst possible scenario with any variation in order to keep us ‘alive’. If it can’t predict the future, how can it keep us safe?
Now let me tell you something else – your mind is your worst enemy when it comes to making a positive change. You have to train it just like a puppy to trust you. The overbearing mother in your head doesn’t know what is best or what you are capable of. It can’t see beyond the discomfort and that doubt becomes a massive roadblock. Try this exercise – Next time you encounter a problem in your life, imagine the worst possible scenario and then… Accept it. Accept the most terrible outcome of your situation. Doing this frees you. After you’ve accepted the worst, your mind switches gears to problem-solving mode and leaves you to think up a creative solution that you otherwise would not have had the mental energy to do because you were too busy worrying about the worst. For most of us, the worst never happens. That is statistically true. Dale Carnegie says so.
I was working a full time job at an insurance company that was sucking the soul right out of my mouth, daily, 9-5. I thought I had to because I have a mortgage and responsibilities but this, my friends, is a trap. I was so afraid that I would lose my mind or lose my job and then lose my house and stop living. I wanted to be a writer and travel the world but this fear of dying of hunger or being bombarded by collection calls kept me from making any changes. So I figured, after a bout of anxiety attacks and countless sleepless nights, that if I was going to live a life as a shell, I might as well live it out doing what I wanted to do.
So I made changes. I didn’t quit my job, but I did go down to part time. I have been selling all the useless junk that I don’t need and I cut out luxuries that cost more than any pleasure they could have possibly afforded me. I use my extra time to write just for myself or to share with other people. I see my friends and family and I cook thrifty meals at home. I have had to become resourceful and it has been so exciting. No, I don’t make millions. No, I can’t travel to Europe – yet. But I see that as a possibility now. If I lose my house, then I lose my house. I’ll find a job or do something else that actually interests me to survive and who knows, maybe that will let me see more of the world.
Don’t be afraid to make a change for yourself. You have one life to live, whether you believe in reincarnation or the afterlife or whatever. This is the only opportunity you have, now, in this moment, to do what drives you. Let your inspiration guide you and trust yourself. You might just inspire others to do the same, and how cool of a world would that be? Where everyone does whatever makes them happy.. and then shares it with the world.